How to Deal with Loss


Emily Bekiaris, Staff

Loss. A simple four-lettered word. Though the word is small in size its impact on people can last a few seconds to a lifetime. Losing someone you love is not an easy thing to go through. Everyone deals with the loss in their own, unique way. If you have never dealt with the death of someone close to you, you are not expected to know what to do. Even the experienced have no idea what to do most of the time.  

With this being said, there is no correct way to deal with loss. The goal here is not to solve anything, because you cannot. The goal here is to help each day go by a little easier and to help ease the pain, sadness, numbness, or anger you’re experiencing.  

Like previously said, there isn’t a wrong way to grieve, but, according to an article on the Washington Times by Dr. Nina Radcliff, “in this difficulty it is important to understand your emotions, take care of yourself, open up and seek support from family, friends and professionals.”  

Don’t clam up. It is going to be difficult at first, but you want to stay away from shutting yourself out of the world. It is understandable that you are going to want to be alone, but make sure you are keeping up with your health and doing what is best for you.  

School psychologist Brittany Foreman, stated that, there may be times when a grieving individual may be in need of some additional support. If an individual is experiencing a marked loss in activities of interest —significant changes in eating or sleeping, fear of being alone, significant decreases in school or work performance, etc it may be a sign that the individual may need to reach out for more support. 

If you need help, don’t be ashamed to ask for it. There is no need to be embarrassed. You are not expected to be able to carry all this weight on your shoulders and just handle it. If it ever feels like it’s all becoming too much, it is encouraged that you talk to someone. 

“Redirecting emotions from the loved one who has passed and turn it towards others” is another beneficial thing to do, as suggested by Dr. Radcliff.  

This is not the time to dwell in the past. Yes, you should honor the memory of your loved one, but this is also the time to live in the present and cherish all the people you still have there to support you. Reconnecting yourself with the world, family, and friends is an effective way to deisolate yourself. 

Another issue that people run into during the grieving process is the fear of forgetting the person you love. If this is something crosses your mind, then here is a link by Frazer Consultant of ideas to honor and memorialize your loved one to make sure their memory is never forgotten. This list includes things such as making a scrapbook, photo album, organizing a balloon release, or creating a memorial candle. 

This part is for the concerned family and friends. 

“Those who are close with the individual that is grieving should be open to talking with the individual about the loss if that person wishes to do so. It can also be helpful to ask the grieving person what they need. Some may want to be left alone, some may want to talk, some may just want a friend or family member nearby to sit with them. Do not assume to know what another person needs without asking them,” Ms. Foreman advised.

The most important thing you can do for a grieving individual is to simply be there and just ask what you can do. It is your support and caring presence that will help your loved one cope with the pain and gradually begin to heal.   

As this article ends, just remember, there is no greater pain than losing someone, but just try to remember that things will get better and the pain will eventually subsideGrief teaches us to appreciate life and those we love. Don’t try to avoid it. Embrace it, and just know everything is going to be okay.